Changes That Have Made a Difference

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Over the last 6 months, I have made some changes in my work habits that have reduced stress, increased my time with my wife, provided more focused time with our children and provide better boundaries between work and home.

1. Cancelled Texting. Completely shut it off. Not only is it off, I called AT&T and asked them to take it off my phone completely. This has given me more privacy, becoming available to people at work through email and cell but not texting. Texting was killing me, it was non-stop access to me 24hrs/day. No longer.

2. Close email App on days off. On my days off, I'll still blog and be online, but I don't open Apple Mail, Google Mail, nothing. This way I'm not tempted to send or read email, because once that happens you know what comes next, my mind is on work things, aways from my home or whatever other things I'm into at the time (resting, painting, exercising, reading, etc). This has been a hard thing to do, it took me about 2-3 weeks to detox, but I can say I'm now offline on my days off.

3. No email on Saturday nights. There's nothing worse than reading a nasty email the night before Sundays (at least for me as a pastor). Too many times I'll read an email, nasty or just asking for this and that and I'm off the deep end, working it, thinking, wanting to kill someone or myself. So on Saturday nights, I don't check my email. Instead, I focus on my own work for Sundays, reading, praying, late night prep at times, etc. But this is me time, God time, serving the Body time, versus distractions through email.

4. Daily focused time with my wife. Both of us are busy, she is a teacher I work at a church, we have three small children, life is hectic. But every day, most of the times at 7:30am, my wife and I talk for 20mns or so. We talk about our feelings, about our to do's. We'll ask questions such as "how are you feeling today?", "what do you want to talk about?", "what do you have to do today?". For my wife, on the days she works, it slows her down, giving her time to drink coffee while sitting down with me versus in the car, while on the phone with the babysitter, rushing to work. For me, it's focused time with my wife, to talk, to bear all, to be one. It's the best part of my day. Some couples call it "couch time", other's "coffee break," whatever it is, it's something we're doing and is bringing us closer than ever.

These things are simple, but if you're like me and have been addicted to email, texting, etc. etc. there's a price you're paying, and I was paying it. That glazed look while everyone's having dinner, that "aha, aha...." while my 6 year old is talking to me, or worse yet stewing over a work issue. Or just simply checking out during the night time routines - dinner, putting kids to bed, all the other little things that mean the most to my wife and our children, all because I am online, texting, answering emails when I should be focused on my soul and my home.

These changes have increased my "home focus" time by 5-6 hours/day, or 40-50%. No joke. I feel better, more focused, more relaxed, more balanced, more godly, more centered, and when Sunday comes I'm more ready to give it my best.

After all, I believe my soul, my wife and children, are still to be my #1 focus.

Have a great day.

Into the future,

davidT

Where I Pray

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This is where I pray, worship, think, cry, laugh. Back yard, guitar, under a tree, family running around.

Peaceful.

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Into the future,

davidT

How I Eat

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Today is a good (and typical) example of how I eat.

To bring everyone up to speed, I am into fitness. I eat 6 small meals a day, lift and run/abs 6x/week. I've done this on a weekly basis since 2004.

I used to weigh 220lbs. now I weigh 185lb. I had no muscle tone, felt sluggish, ate pizza, ice cream, sweets, chocolate, anything and everything and felt terrible, my BP was 140/90, my cholesterol was high, went to the chiropractor weekly (not a bad thing btw), I was a mess.

Now I have strong arms, tight abs, strong legs and chest, firm back, I'm in shape. I feel amazing, have energy all day long, can't remember the last time I had to visit my chiropractor (abs and deadlifts are great "back-breakers"), my BP is 110/70, my pulse and resting rate are low. I have run a 5K and came in 10th place in my age category. I feel strong, I look great and younger than ever. I am committed to this for life.

I started with Body for Life in 2004, did Arnold's Body Building Program in 2005 and Dave Draper's Fitness Program 2006 to current.

So anyway, back to today:

Eating
Breakfast - Oatmeal (whole oats), brown sugar, non-fat milk. Together with 45grams of protein (Pro-Complex) in 10oz of water.

10am snack - Power Bar, water.

Lunch - Grilled Chicken Burrito, no guacamole, no sour cream, wheat tortilla, no chips, no nachos. water.

4pm snack - Low fat Cottage Cheese (1c), 1/2 c. Non-Fat Yogurt, string cheese, water.

Dinner - Baked chicken, rice, steamed broccoli (no butter, no sour cream, no salt).

9pm snack - Protein smoothie, 45grams of protein, sugar-free frozen strawberries, 1/2 a frozen banana, 10oz non-fat milk, ice, in a blender.

Exercise
Lift, 1 hour, Chest and back
Abs
Run, 20mns

That's a typical day. I'm not perfect, I'll eat pizza once a month (or twice maybe), I'll snack on wheat thins and string cheese or have non-buttered popcorn at times. My body is not perfect by any means.

I just eat healthy, exercise daily and feel great.

Want help? Ask me. Someday I hope to become a certified personal trainer to help people get in shape. This is both psychology and physical. I've already had 4-5 people commit to a similar program just by talking to me about it. The proof is in my commitment to it.

Have a great day.

Into the future,

davidT

Now Is the Time

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Ok, so now I'm doing it....probably not until Nov/Dec, but at $399, the iPhone is a steal.

Have a great day.

Into the future,

davidT