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You belong here,
The other day I had to write an email describing how I felt about an issue. How do I respond when I don't even know how I feel? What I did was write that I'm not too sure about the decision and gave a few reasons why and said that ultimately I trust their decision.
That's the best I could do.
Have a great day,
Into the future,
davidT
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Communication in Marriage, Helping Each Other Out
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I've been meaning to write this post for a while on communication in marriage and more specifically how what wife and I communicate.
Today was a perfect example. Our almost 8 year old had an allergic reaction to a cat and got a puffy eye. At the same time, our sister in law who just had a baby yesterday, called my wife needing some help as her three year old and two day old were doing what three year olds and two day olds normally do. So my wife called me to ask "I'd like to go help my sister, but our girl has a puffy eye, what shall we do?"
It was a great moment. During our daily "coffee time" where we talk in the mornings about life, our day, our feelings, etc. we had talked about working together on such moments.
So I recommended she come home and I could take care of our children and she go back to her sister's, but it's a long drive so she said she'd rather not. I then called back and recommended she go to her sister's with the children and I go pick them up so she could stay there, she said she'd rather come home being that her other sister was on her way to help with baby Sam.
I then recommended after she come home and we do the night time routine (our little ones need to be in bed by 8pm tonight!), she go back and join her sister for an impromptu "late night sister's night". That sounded like a great idea to her. It was a great moment.
This is simple, daily life stuff, nothing earth shattering. But with so many emotions in the picture, family needs and two sets of expectations, these moments can easily become a tug-of-war, a "what's more important?" our children or her baby? struggle. (And trust me, I can be a butt in those situations).
But instead we chose to communicate and work together. And it was all a result of trust in our marriage and daily, constant communication. That 2-3 minute phone conversation was a result of my wife calling to check in with me, asking for my advice which makes me feel respected and valued, and I responded in kind by offering to help and supporting her in her desire to help our sister in law.
Right now, our 8 year old is doing better, I just helped her get ready for bed. My wife is getting dinner ready, and I'm helping set-up 30mns or so of the "Polar Express". Normal stuff, normal life, but a strong commitment to communication and leaning on each other, working as one.
This is one of the things I love most about our marriage.
Have a great day.
Into the future,
davidT
I've been meaning to write this post for a while on communication in marriage and more specifically how what wife and I communicate.
Today was a perfect example. Our almost 8 year old had an allergic reaction to a cat and got a puffy eye. At the same time, our sister in law who just had a baby yesterday, called my wife needing some help as her three year old and two day old were doing what three year olds and two day olds normally do. So my wife called me to ask "I'd like to go help my sister, but our girl has a puffy eye, what shall we do?"
It was a great moment. During our daily "coffee time" where we talk in the mornings about life, our day, our feelings, etc. we had talked about working together on such moments.
So I recommended she come home and I could take care of our children and she go back to her sister's, but it's a long drive so she said she'd rather not. I then called back and recommended she go to her sister's with the children and I go pick them up so she could stay there, she said she'd rather come home being that her other sister was on her way to help with baby Sam.
I then recommended after she come home and we do the night time routine (our little ones need to be in bed by 8pm tonight!), she go back and join her sister for an impromptu "late night sister's night". That sounded like a great idea to her. It was a great moment.
This is simple, daily life stuff, nothing earth shattering. But with so many emotions in the picture, family needs and two sets of expectations, these moments can easily become a tug-of-war, a "what's more important?" our children or her baby? struggle. (And trust me, I can be a butt in those situations).
But instead we chose to communicate and work together. And it was all a result of trust in our marriage and daily, constant communication. That 2-3 minute phone conversation was a result of my wife calling to check in with me, asking for my advice which makes me feel respected and valued, and I responded in kind by offering to help and supporting her in her desire to help our sister in law.
Right now, our 8 year old is doing better, I just helped her get ready for bed. My wife is getting dinner ready, and I'm helping set-up 30mns or so of the "Polar Express". Normal stuff, normal life, but a strong commitment to communication and leaning on each other, working as one.
This is one of the things I love most about our marriage.
Have a great day.
Into the future,
davidT
Friday, July 17, 2009
I'm Tired of Social Media
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I'm into social media, from the MySpace days to yesterday's Facebook and the current Twitter. I use my iPhone and TweetDeck to tweet and try to keep up with the latest apps out there. But I'm getting tired of the whole thing.
Here's why....
It all seems fake to me. In my life, I need more "human interaction" not less. As a musician, as a person helping others form, as a creative type, as a collaborator and innovator, one thing I've learned is that it's about sitting in a room, bringing people together and watching things take off.
In fact, three months ago I cancelled my Facebook account (no easy task), a few years ago I stopped using MySpace and stopped doing Podcasts. Recently I stopped using iGoogle and I'm days/weeks away from closing down my Twitter account. Btw, I think blogging has more "legs" than the rest and as a writer, I'll keep blogging.
Now, I've never been more excited about Innovation, Collaboration and Communication, bringing people together. I'm still a huge fan of the phone (duh!), and email, Google Docs, of Blogger and the WeatherChannel on my iPhone. I'm still a huge fan of Evernote, Basecamp and Remember the Milk. I'm also a huge fan of talking to people one on one, imagine that.
But social media and Web 2.0? I don't buy it. I've been there done that and have not seen it improve my life style that much (now, I must admit that my Innovation network on Twitter has led me to some great links.)
My plan is to let social media run it's course and slowly watch it leave my screen and life style. Soon, the latest and greatest app will catch my eye, I'll try it for a few months and discard it like an old pair of socks.
At the end of the day, I'd rather spend my time talking to people in real life or emailing them pictures (or video thank you 3GS) of my son's birthday piñata than updating my status every 10mns.
It's just not that important.
Have a great day.
Into the future,
davidT
I'm into social media, from the MySpace days to yesterday's Facebook and the current Twitter. I use my iPhone and TweetDeck to tweet and try to keep up with the latest apps out there. But I'm getting tired of the whole thing.
Here's why....
It all seems fake to me. In my life, I need more "human interaction" not less. As a musician, as a person helping others form, as a creative type, as a collaborator and innovator, one thing I've learned is that it's about sitting in a room, bringing people together and watching things take off.
In fact, three months ago I cancelled my Facebook account (no easy task), a few years ago I stopped using MySpace and stopped doing Podcasts. Recently I stopped using iGoogle and I'm days/weeks away from closing down my Twitter account. Btw, I think blogging has more "legs" than the rest and as a writer, I'll keep blogging.
Now, I've never been more excited about Innovation, Collaboration and Communication, bringing people together. I'm still a huge fan of the phone (duh!), and email, Google Docs, of Blogger and the WeatherChannel on my iPhone. I'm still a huge fan of Evernote, Basecamp and Remember the Milk. I'm also a huge fan of talking to people one on one, imagine that.
But social media and Web 2.0? I don't buy it. I've been there done that and have not seen it improve my life style that much (now, I must admit that my Innovation network on Twitter has led me to some great links.)
My plan is to let social media run it's course and slowly watch it leave my screen and life style. Soon, the latest and greatest app will catch my eye, I'll try it for a few months and discard it like an old pair of socks.
At the end of the day, I'd rather spend my time talking to people in real life or emailing them pictures (or video thank you 3GS) of my son's birthday piñata than updating my status every 10mns.
It's just not that important.
Have a great day.
Into the future,
davidT
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